What’s up, keen Flowmentumers? Just wanted to dive into a practical topic that emphasises the importance of what you do outside the field, not just the immediate actions within the field. The “field” referring to life experiences and social situations, especially interactions with women. I’m talking about recording and tracking your progress, particularly creating written or typed versions of personal experiences and information that is potentially relevant to your development.
The importance of such personal documentation during the journey should not be underestimated. While it might not be a supremely necessarily tool for everyone to get ahead, it should at least be attempted for a reasonable period of time, before one can properly determine how much it’s helping, and working out which specific method(s) of recording information and tracking progress is most effective to serve your particular needs (based on specific goals and people learning in different ways).
The concept of field reports are already well-known in the community, documenting and/or sharing what’s happened when you’ve gone into the field and taken action. But they need to be done properly to benefit from them. It’s normal to be proud of your learning and achievements, but instead of seeking validation or trying to prove yourself to others, the main focus should be a humble and realistic insight into what’s happening – recognising success and failure in equal measure. On a side note, based on the same principle, this also occurs in the form of immediate verbal discussion between like-minded friends and wingmen.
This means recognising your strengths, along with discovering things about yourself and society in general. But it’s also about discovering weaknesses in your game and seeking feedback, especially when new questions and ambiguous situations arise from trying new things and pushing your comfort zone. It also provides a chance to give value by explaining the mindset behind your actions, specific observations and how you are correcting issues to develop an effective process.
However, a little humour and entertainment value doesn’t go astray in the wording and expression of reports – in terms of finding amusement in situations to motivate yourself, and making stories or learnings more interesting for others to read and learn from. In a way, this somewhat mirrors the process of how you might express yourself and generate good emotions in the field, which helps you express your unique value and personality better, and draws people into that energy.
They don’t need to be too long either, just big enough to get the main points across – whether it’s for sharing or just for your own recollection and reflection, without going into long-winded detail about everything. Then again, it depends on your writing style and storytelling ability – another skill that is developed through regular practise. You might initially start recording everything, but over time learn more about yourself, which helps refine the filtering process of what’s most important and useful compared to unimportant filler.
Another aspect of tracking progress, which I actually did much more frequently than writing reports, is writing notes from written theory and videos I watched on attraction and similar topics. Everything from specific “opening lines” to correct body language – sounds pretty dorky in hindsight, but it makes sense that I was desperate to change and heavily researching any ways to start taking more action (and do it more effectively than ever before). My preferred method was structuring it with sub-headings and dot-points; layed-out in easily-digestible chunks for reference.
Let’s be honest – there’s a huge amount of information out there, not to mention everything we have to remember and the processes we follow in our personal lives, which isn’t related to getting better with women. So when you develop a way to systematically record, organise and filter the most important points about your self-development and seduction aspirations, at any particular time in your journey, you give yourself a bigger advantage.
However, personal relevance is a crucial factor – instead of rushing into recording everything you hear and see, for the sake of it, especially because it sounds good and helped others, it pays to be more discerning about what you’re doing, and what’s going to benefit you most at any given time. For example, it’s not particularly helpful to learn about compliance and qualification if you don’t have basic body language and vocal tonality handled; it becomes a misguided focus, and will cause more frustration than it solves.
Nothing wrong with absorbing a variety of information from many sources, but with limited time in most people’s lives, progress becomes slower if you “spread yourself too thin” and instead of trying to overcome your specific sticking points, try to accomplish everything at once. I made this mistake initially, but didn’t take long to figure out that things I learned and applied should be suitable to my personal journey – keeping in mind that my reality, skills, behaviours and needs are always changing.
Even without external sources, guidance or influences immediately available, consciously making note of your own ideas and insights should be incorporated into this process – thoughts and experiences can be personal and tangible, yet unfortunately fleeting, due to a potentially false sense of trust in our short-term memory.
Then give yourself permission to reflect and read a little more deeply into the aforementioned ideas and insights that might unexpectedly pop into your head, as they could prove useful and reflect that your brain has automatically “deciphered the puzzle”, providing you with clarity and understanding about certain things that were unclear before. Don’t ignore this message!
Last but certainly not least, setting and achieving goals is perhaps the most tangible way to really track your personal development. It’s about identifying what you want, finding out what’s currently stopping you from getting there, gathering the right resources and having a plan, then going through the process to achieve it. It’s also about recognising where you’ve come from, what helped you reach your current level, which automatically feeds into the future – realising you still have the capacity for change, which feeds into an upward cycle of more goals to set, new challenges to overcome, and positive changes to continue occurring.
I personally changed the most during my “newbie days”, when I maintained a journal and produced reports on a semi-regularly. Even though it could be argued that the biggest changes will naturally happen earlier anyway, with changes and improvements always occurring yet becoming less profound or significant as time goes on.
Nevertheless… I believe it played a big part in finding out more about myself, internalising a better belief system, finding new action-taking methods (then being able to accurately judge the personal effectiveness), separating good behaviours from bad behaviours, and identifying/achieving goals in a shorter period of time. So give it a shot – a little effort in organising your learning process might just provide the extra clarity and self-discovery you need, as long as you’re still getting out there and taking massive action. The two go hand-in-hand.